TRUST AND LOYALTY IN FAMILY (IN TERMS OF QURAN AND CIRCUMCISION)

Abstract

The family is one of the greatest blessing that Allah bestows on people. This is very important because families are main constituents of society. The family is an establishment founded by marriage that maintains its vitality for the day when mankind existed. This establishment is a source of happiness for human beings. In order for keep this happiness for a life, there are some common duties and responsibilities such as mutual love, respect, loyalty and trust to the individuals who consists the family. Loyalty is making up a family for only God's sake, not for the selfinterest. It is one of the hallmarks of true believers. Furthermore, loyalty and trust are the strongest link between husband and wife. It is not just a value that expected from a woman. Also the man must be in a sense of loyalty to his wife. Trust is also one of the most important hallmark of believers. For this reason, we should be trusted not only with our family but also with our neighbors, friends and the society. People should build all their affairs and relationships on trust and they should not give up honesty even if it is contrary to their own interests. Trust is the measure of our loyalty to Allah and the prophet as well as it is one of the most important criteria of human relations People who have been living in society since the beginning of human history, continue their lives in a family. Because a healthy society consist of healthy families, societies that refuse to "family" or who can not protect the family are destined to disperse sooner or later. This is because the problems that start in the family and irregularities gradually spread the whole society and collapse it. Today, familiesare constantly corroding and deteriorating. Because spouses are less self-sacrificing for each other. This situation pushes the married couples to depression, and the natural resultis a growing number of fractious and unhappy families. When a man or women wants to get married, they should take the advice of their parents and try to marry with a chaste person who has got Islamic decency. Also they should give more importance to morality and piousness than beauty and wealth when choosing their life partner. This issue is emphasized in the Qur'an. “Believers who are chaste are halal to you. “ (Maide, 4/ 5). Being a family means completing the whole. Because men without women and it’s the exact opposite is missing and half. The wife and husband are like two halves of an apple and they complete each other's missing. The integrity of these two parts depends on loyalty and trust. For this reason, our article will be based on loyalty and trust and their contribution to family happiness in accordance with the topic. 1-Loyalty Loyalty means that they are right and trustful in their words and affairs each other. Life experiences show that happiness is not possible without being connected to your partner. Cheating is such a predicament that it is the primary reason of divorce. Spouses have to accept and love each other unconditionally. Of course, this does not mean that inappropriate behavior would be met with tolerance. One of the most basic dynamics of family peace is loyalty. Happiness and comfort in marriage can only be achieved with loyalty. It is not possible for married people to be happy without loyalty and it is the strongest link between wife and husband. When this bond weakens, the emotions connecting the family begin to disappear. Loyalty is one of the most evident characteristics of believers who have faith in Allah. Adultery is forbidden in Islamic law. The main reasons for Islam to ban adultery are; protection of the family and generation, protection of honorable people from rape, providing peace in society and prevention of sexually transmitted diseases. A-Chastity The chastity that the Qur'an emphasizes is having honorable and moral life besides the avoiding words and acts that are contrary to Islamic ethics also adherence to ethics in sexual matters. In other words, it is to be an honest and virtuous person. Chastity is the most basic feature that separates people from animals; because in animals there are no such things as decency, morality, honor, marriage. Not having these features means that losinghumanity and resisting the orders of Allah. In brief, beingchaste is to live accordance with Islamıc morality. B- Cheating As A Kind Of Deception One of the most important cause of divorce is cheating. Also cheating is one of the greatest reason of losingconfidence in marriage and deteriorating the family peace. One of the main causes of unrest and disengagement in the family is cheating, which is the result of the spouses not showing the expected sensitivity about the adultery and honor. The cheating weakens the bonds of marriageeven destroy it. This situation bruise the bonds of love, respect and trust, which are the most important steps of marriage, and eliminate the loyalty. This approach is also contrary to the nature of marriage. C-Keeping Secret Spouses have to keep their secrets which happened and shared togetherbesides theinformation gained from each other about work, professional activity, family life, health and so on.It is also a violation of loyalty obligation that people spread the words to strangersabout other spouse which are incorrect as well as the secrets of wife and husband. Trust in family is one of the basic principles of happiness. Trust expresses sincerityand commitment among family members. One of the most important factors that keeps the family together and ensures the continuation of peace and happiness is mutual trust. Trust is one of the most important features of Muslims. One day when asked to the Prophet "Who is the Muslim?", he answered as “The real Muslim is whom the other Muslims can trust his talk, and behavior”. We should not make promises to our family members that we can not do. Because if we could not do it, we would seenas a liar and lose their confidence. Unreliability also makes th

Özet

Aile, Allah'ın insanlara bahşettiği en büyük nimetlerdendir. Toplum açısından çok önemlidir. Çünkü toplum, ailelerden oluşur. Aile, insanlığın var olduğu günden bugüne kadar hayatiyetini devam ettiren, evlilik yolu ile kurulan bir kurumdur. Bu kurum, insan için mutluluk kaynağıdır. Bu mutluluğun bir ömür boyu sürmesi için, aileyi oluşturan bireylere karşılıklı sevgi, saygı, sadakat ve güven gibi bir takım ortak görev ve sorumluluklar düşmektedir. Sadakat, kişisel çıkardan uzak, her yönüyle Allah rızası için birliktelik oluşturmaktır. Allah'a gönülden iman eden mü'minlerin en belirgin özelliklerinden biridir. Sadakat ve güven karı-kocayı birbirine bağlayan en kuvvetli bağdır. Sadakat sadece kadından beklenmemeli, erkek de hanımına karşı sadakat duygusu içinde olmalıdır. Kur'an bu konuda kadın erkek ayrımı yapmadan her iki tarafa iffetli davranmalarını emretmektedir. İffet, insanları hayvanlardan ayıran en temel unsurdur. Çünkü hayvanlar edep, hayâ, namus, nikâh ve şeref gibi vasıflara sahip değillerdir. Bu vasıflar insani ve ahlâki özelliklerdir. Bu özellikleri taşımamak, insanlığını kaybetmek ve Allah'ın buyruklarına aykırı hareket etmek anlamına gelir. Güven de, mü'minlerin en önemli özelliklerindendir. Bu sebeple sadece ailemize değil, komşularımıza, arkadaşlarımıza ve çevremize karşı da güvenilir olmalıyız. İnsanlar, bütün işlerini ve ilişkilerini güven üzerine bina etmeli, görüntü olarak zararlarına neticelense dahi doğruluktan ayrılmamalıdır. Doğruluk; Allah'a ve Resulullah'a karşı sadakatimizin ölçüsü olduğu gibi çevremizdeki insanlara karşı vereceğimiz güven, emniyet ve sadakatin da en önemli ölçüsüdür